THE FIVE MAIN FACTORS THAT MAKES A LADY UNATTRACTIVE

 

Don’t get it twisted, being attractive goes beyond looks, it is a vital virtue a must have. It is the force that will develop the desire of people craving to get close to you but there are some factors that would hinder it all. Week in week out some ladies don’t make new friends, they will keep wondering why people are not coming close to them.  Ladies, the solution is not farfetched, here are five main factors that makes a lady unattractive, so kindly read up and let’s get Nigeria lighted up with more attractive ladies. If you don’t want the world to pass you by, you should be attractive….

1. Lack of Confident: it is believed that whatever you have inside of you is what would reflect outwardly, having confidence is an inside factor, that will reflect in you outwardly, it is a factor that cannot be hidden. Now show me a lady that’s got good confidence in herself and I will show you a magnetic lady, she attracts anything in her range of reach. The confidence doesn’t only work for her looks alone but also in her choice of field or career. These are the kind of ladies you find in the marketing department of most firms, they are highly sorted after. Lacking confidence in life repels just like two south pole magnet faced together most especially when you are a lady, the only people you get attracted to yourself most times as a lady who lacks confidence are people most especially men who wants to take advantage of you, and most times they zap when they have gotten what they want from you. So ladies develop all that confidence well enough and get them all attracted to you like ants are attracted to sweets.

2. Poor Hygiene: I will like to share a personal experience I had with a lady with a bad hygiene, just last year I met a girl who got me attracted with her personality and confidence, so I strike up a conversation with her, we got close to each other. So one day then I invited her over, she eventually came and we got talking, so I accidentally moved closer to her, Lawd have mercy! I was highly disappointed at the offensive odor I perceived from her, immediately she became unattractive to me even though she has got all the specs I need in a lady. I faked a call and discharged her, till date the lady kept wondering why I stopped contacting her. Having a good hygiene goes beyond  making stylish hair, putting on a clean and smart clothing, keeping your nails neat and your undies clean, the way you smell gives people an idea of how hygienic you are. Make your hygiene a priority to you today to remain a top notch attractive lady.

3. Selfish: Personally I do away with the “me” “me” kind of ladies, they know nothing else but themselves, you will most times find words like “Me” and “I” in their choice of words, selflessness is not in their dictionary. They are the attention seeking kind of girls, they want the world radar to be on them alone and they easily get depressed when the attention they seek is not forthcoming. A selfless service most times attracts the right kind of people to you but selfishness repels.

4. Bad Character: You will all agree with me that no one will ever want to get close to a lady with bad a character except her mom; they will try to avoid her as much as they can. No one is born with a good character, in fact our environment teaches us to be hostile and insensitive but as a lady who wants to achieve meaningful things out of life you need to learn how to become a lady with a great character. After you have attracted them with your looks, confidence, fashion, what would actually make them stay and keep coming back to you is your character.

5. Weak Fashion Scope: Picture speaks louder than voice; people get attracted to whatever is pleasant to the eyes. When they can’t come close to you; let your fashion speak for you. I’m not saying you should buy up all the most expensive fashion materials; they are lot of affordable and good fashion materials out there you can buy. What really matters in fashion scope is the combination; thank goodness there a lot fashion websites and materials that can help you step up your fashion game. You are not a boy, so stop having that Tomboy look, dress like a lady because dressing like a lady makes you look more attractive except you are man. Aside from entertaining us, I want to see the famous Nollywood actress Rita Dominic help a lot of our ladies with her mind blowing fashion tips. Always remember that you dress the way you want to be addressed.

The win win game begins with how attractive and appealing you are, so be more attractive and get the world at your finger tip today……

15 Tips To Be A Great Entrepreneur In The 21st Century

In the present economy hardship, where jobs are lost every day, families and homes are being shattered because of lack of resources, can there be way out of this hardship ?

I hear wisdom calling from afar, trying to find way into our hearts but many hearts are shot tightly leaving wisdom outside in the cold.

The way out of this economy situation is learning the principles and dynamic rules of entrepreneurship, so I present to you “15 Rules to be a great entrepreneur in the 21th century”.

Now what is expected of you as a 21st century entrepreneur?

Before going any further, you need to first discover yourself

Knowing yourself is the foundation of wisdom; know what your capabilities, strength and weakness are, this goes a long way to help discover who you really are

1. Passion: Being passionate about things you do is the desiring force that drives you to do something even when you are not rewarded for it, it is something you are most times not ordered to do, you most times do them consistently out of your own free will. Passion should be the first thing to think of when choosing a career or skill acquisition , with passion everyday will be like holiday for you even at work.

2. Audacity: Be fearless and bold when handling life issues and business affairs , I learnt something from the CEO of “Konvit Records” Akon, when his record label was about to sign Lady Gaga, most of his company executives was against him signing Lady Gaga, but he was audacious in his decision taking. He stood on his ground and he went ahead to sign her, Lady Gaga later became a hit and brought the company fortunes, this is not to say being audacious doesn’t have its own shortcomings but still yet you still need to be audacious as a 21st century Entrepreneur.

3. Problem Solving: One of the major reason why I wouldn’t like to be a resident in a developed country is because there are no much problems there for me to solve, the people who solved majority of their problems have earned a fortune and they are now spreading their tentacles to Africa e.g. The Chinese. When you discover a problem, instead of you complaining to the government like an average Nigerian do, device a means to solve the problem and smile to the bank. All the billionaires we have today worldwide are problem solvers, quote me anywhere.

4. Spend Money to Make Money: As a 21st century entrepreneur you should spend money to make money not save money, you only save to later spend on a venture that will yield more. Majority of your money should be spent on avenues where you can get the money back, this is why the banks are loyal to top CEO’S in granting loans, because the bank is sure that these ones spend money to get money back. Know this now that CEO’S don’t establish a business with their own money, they establish industries and companies with the accumulated money from peasants and workers collected by banks.

5.Sacrifice: Bear the present pains, pay the sacrifice of that thing you believe in, Bill Gates sacrificed his degree for Microsoft, even our own Seun Osewa sacrificed his degree for Nairaland, this is not to discourage anyone to obtain a degree, just want to use them as an example to open our eyes to a bigger picture. To become a successful 21st century entrepreneur you must be able to let go off something you hold in high esteem that’s a hindrance to your set out goals. In the race of becoming 21st entrepreneur is always a tussle between the stoic trait and epicurean. A stoic is one who can sacrifice present pleasure for the future, an Epicurean is one who lives like there is no tomorrow, they live for now and are consumers.

6. Invest in yourself: When we say invest in yourself we don’t mean buying yourself unnecessary luxuries, invest in things that will add value to you. Like the saying goes “garbage in and garbage out”, computer hardware is useless without an inputted software, you input into a hardware system in relating this to human practicable act, we are humans are the computer hardware and information/ knowledge is the software. You are limited to the amount of information you have, educate and illuminate working scope, and general life engagements. All these will cost you something but never mind it’s for the betterment of your well being.

7. Be Humble: Being humble is as simple as the word sounds, but it’s difficult for many to practice, people naturally despises the proud which is the opposite of humble, no two ways about it, it is either you are humble or proud, so check yourself. No matter the caliber of customers, clients or staffs and even people around you, just be humble to them, because in people lies the treasure you seek (This is why we have the human relation department in companies). Be humble to the extent you make your clients and customers feel comfortable or even above you, being humble doesn’t stop you from becoming who you are.

8. Get a Mentor: Look for someone who is already successful in the direction you are heading to and be humble enough to be mentored by him or her. Apply the law of 33%,

· The first 33% of your time should be spent with those who you above

· The second 33% of your time should be spend with those who are your equals

· And the final 33% should be spent with those above you

9. Read More: Be a voracious reader, this saying in time past was made popular “you want to hide a secret from a black man, put in a writing” but in this present 21st century that saying holds no weight, ground or validity anymore. The fitness folks would say “ you are what you eat “ but I will prefer to say “You are what you read”. In those closed books are hidden treasures of this world, it won’t be revealed to you until you open and read it. Some years back I read the book “ The Angels and the Demons” few years later I watched the movie, but I tell you, It was nothing compared to the book itself, a lot of information was left out of the movie.

10. The Team : You need to work with a smart team, folks that are your like minds, people that will make life easier for you. With the right people around and the right attitude success is a must, a piece of broom stick can sweep only but a little, but with many brooms sticks bonded together there is a greater impression. Stay away from negative people, they have a problem for every solution, while the positive people have the solution to every problem

11. Persevere: One company I will never stop admiring is a digital satellite TV company in Nigeria Sta*****s, when Mul********ce company came up with Go** an exact product like theirs, I exclaimed “ This is the end of Sta*****s” because of the strong reputation of Mul********ce ! But Sta*****s stood on their ground, persevere and restrategized to remain in business. One CEO I cease to admire is the Chairman of the defunct telecommunication company, he allowed the troubles in the business world to overwhelm him , hereby committing suicide, how I wished he has persevered. Rome wasn’t built in day, so start start small, work hard and watch that business grow

12. Consistency : Continue doing what you are doing, also seeking for better ways to do it, at the long run you will sure reap the harvest. Now lets rewind back to 2008, if someone had told Linda Ikeji that Blogging will later get her a mansion, fame and wealth she has now, she might have doubted it. Let the world know you for something, and not a jack of all trade. Being consistent and effective at your game is what qualifies you to be a professional.

13. Goal Setting: Set out your goal, write and execute them, it’s enough for you to just set out goals without execution. Write out your short term goals and your long term goals. Your short term goals ranges from 1 month to 5 years and your long term goals ranges from 5 years and above. Never make that mistake of thinking you can memorize your goals without writing them, our several life’s engagement might let those goals slip off our memory, so it’s we right them out and execute. Always write yours goals like a To-List, marking out each successfully executed goal.

14. Build your Network: In your road to success you are bound to meet with all kinds of people, these same people you came across coming up are the networks you will need to remain a success, everybody you meet are your potential network so treat them nicely. Try as much as possible not to break these networks with poor or bad relations so as not to experience severe hiccups in the business terrain, everybody is useful. Instead of cutting them off, keep them in touch, like Paul the Apostle would say “If possible, be at peace with all men”.

15. Be Optimistic : Expect the best in all possible ways, this is what the religious folks will call faith, stay positive, stay focused, the sky is just a stepping stone.

Narrated by Salisu-Thalith Ridwan

Composed and Written by Henry Nwachukwu (HerexG)

TIPS ON HOW BEST A SINGLE LADY SHOULD SOCIALIZE IN HER 30S

The social life style of ladies in thier 20s should be quite different from ladies in thier 30s, when a lady in her 30s socialize like she is in her 20s, most people would likely perceive a negative perspective on such a lady and she will eventually attract the wrong people to herself. Ladies in her 20s are predominantly carefree, they are attracted and moved by materialism, love to explore excessively, the drive to catch fun is very high that’s why you find them mostly in places like late night clubs, parties, being with numerous companies and associates.

Now does it means that ladies in their 30s should be left out of socializing ? The answer is simple as “No”, here are six ways a single lady in her 30s should socialize without attracting the wrong people and perception of her personality…..

1. Always conceal the search for your life partner: Ladies, don’t make it resounding or too obvious that you are single and searching, this is the point where most matured ladies get it all wrong. When you make it too obvious that you are in search of a spouse or life partner, it sends immediately sends the wrong signal to that potential spouse, it will at the long run make him feel as though he is doing you a big favor by dating or marrying you. Reduce to the max every form of desperation and insecurity, instead employ tactically the good old prank ladies in their 20s uses to keep men abate “The hard to get game”.

2. Embrace and Get devoted to a Belief:  Africans most especially Nigerians are a sucker for religion and spiritualism, you can easily pierce through a harden criminals heart if you appeal to his own religion or belief. For the Christians become a devoted church worker with some swag and class, not the “Mgbeke or SU” ones looking so unkempt and without a drive and passion for life and the same goes to other religions and believes.

3. Attending Occasions and Events: Attend more of classy weddings and business meetings “Alone”, majority of the potential spouse you get at 30s are mostly gentlemen and most times shy, so give them all the opportunity to come approach you. Reduce all that girls large round table sittings when you attend events and occasions, give a smooth avenue to reach you. Note not all men are that confident to fish you out of sitting of group of friends.

4. Reduce Luxuries :  Avoid looking too expensive when going to work, event or occasions, just dress responsibly, cute and smart. Cut down all forms of flamboyance and looking too flashy, one of the ladies I respect most when it comes to this aspect is Nollywood Rita Dominic, though she might be rich but she doesn’t look too expensive, she just look smart and beautiful all the time. Ladies make yourself approachable and not looking like a demigoddess.

5. Embrace the “one man MOPOL” Phrase: Reduce and avoid too much companies , most especially guys, avoid the “friend zoned guys” those guys that loves hanging around ladies that they are not dating or having a relationship with, don’t allow them deny you of a potential suitor. These guys will clinch to you to the extent that people would start thinking if something is going on between you both, not knowing that he just using you as a showoff to his ladies.

6.  Take a chill pill: And last be very humble, polite but not stupid, if you have to talk, talk in a polite manner, avoid loose and derogatory words in the public. Get a natural shock absorber, so example when someone accidentally steps on you, don’t allow all hell loose, just accept the sorry or the least you could say is ” please be more careful next time” and not “are you blind….. ?

Do all this and you will get suitors all attracted to you, but the problem would be how to identify the right suitor, in my next post I will analyze and break down how to identify a potential marriage suitor. So watch out guys

Thanks for reading with Love from HerexG.

Telephone interview with freelance writer Henry N.

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Understanding Temperaments and Relating it with Careers

Understanding human temperaments is the key to towards achieving excellent human relationship, understanding human temperaments is also very vital in choosing careers. Many out there are presently practicing careers that are totally not in line with their temperament, those who successfully choose and practice careers that are line with their temperament are most times called Genius or they most times very successful in their chosen careers. Today I will try to help us identify and analyze these temperaments and relate them with the various practicable careers (I will use Nigerian celebrities as a case study).

Sanguine: These are the category of people I termed “Hyper-Active”, it is never a dull moment with this kind of people and they lighten up every dull atmosphere. They are extremely extroverts, talkative and display body movements to go in sync with their conversation, they will even first greet you if you fail to greet them. One very good thing about them is that they have no space to harbor grudges against anyone, they say it as they see it and their weakness is isolation, they can’t afford to be isolated. Not finding who to dramatize or talk to can be disastrous to them, it can even lead to depression. These set of people are the party freaks, they love gatherings where they can have the opportunity to exhibit their dramatic skills. They extremely love being the center of attraction

 

Careers that best suits The Sanguines

 

• Entertainers
• Compere
• Comedians
• Pastors with Charisma
• Actors
• Radio and TV personalities
• Marketers
• Public speakers
• Dancers
• Tourist guides

 

Some Sanguine Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

Dbanj, Chris Talker, Harts ( The little man), Chris Talker, Harts( The little man), Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock, I Go Die, Seyi Law, Derenle Edun, Saka,Tosin Buknor, Nedu (Wazobia Fm), Fela Durotoye, Pastor Chris, that dude who played a pastor in the movie titled “Coming to Amerfica”

When their temperament is channeled into negative use

 

Public Nuisance and Gossips

 

Choleric: They are the authoritative people, most times serious, strict and disciplinarians; I termed these categories of people “The Drivers”. They are extroverts who don’t take craps and no for an answer, they enjoy giving orders, commands and rules, very ambitious they are natural leaders. Most of them are the perfectionist type and they love things going their own way, you start becoming their enemy if you don’t abide by their rules and their best friends are those who are loyal to them, those who rarely antagonize them. They love being listened to and are obsessed with power; they have this strong energetic drive that makes people subjective to them. When it comes to more important public speeches they can take anyone to the cleaners, they are good orators.

 

Careers that best suits The Choleric

 

• Force
• Politician
• Head of departments and Organizations
• Strict Teachers
• Ruler
• Aggressive Pastors
• Project Managers
• Rappers
• Security personnel
• Authoritative Actors
• Receptionist

Some Choleric Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

 

Late Gen. Sani Achacha, President Mugabe, Ahmed Bola Tinubu , Olusegun Obasanjo, Donald Trump, Pastor Oyedepo, Gov Adams Oshomole, Olamide, Pete Edochie , Chiwetalagu, Omotola Jalade, MI, Ramsey Noah, Late Dora Akuiyili, Patience Jonathan, Rita   Dominic, Samuel L Jackson, Olu Jacobs, Oprah Winfred, Ben Bruce.

 

 When their temperament is channeled into negative use 

 

Hardened Criminals, Dictatorship, Terrorists, Rebellion  

 

 

 

 

Melancholy: I termed these categories of people “The cool headed folks” very reserved kind of people, they don’t like wahala at all. They can be very analytical that is very good at analyzing and interpretation of written words, figures and pictures these folks are introverts, they enjoy and regard every bit time of time they spend alone. You want to become their permanent enemy, just deny them of their privacy, space (They are obsessed with space) and time alone. You don’t expect this category of people to first greet you if they are not that close to you, they don’t say too much but they can say more in words, figures and pictures, they are the creative geniuses. The Melancholies always try as much as possible not to pass their boundaries; they always mind their own business. In whatever you do please don’t try to push these categories of people to the wall because their outburst is always crazy, they really don’t know how to react or exchange words, it’s either they hit you physically or do something that would really hurt you. The very good thing about them is that they always tend to do excellently well at jobs the requires much concentration

 

Careers that best suits The Melancholics

 

• Doctors
• Lawyers
• Accountants
• Writers
• Architects
• Pilots
• Sailors
• The Analytical Pastors
• Scientist
• Mangers of organizations and Departments
• Auditors
• Artisans
• Professors
• CEOS
• Computer gigs
• Soul Musicians
• Teachers
• Snipers
• Actors

 

Some Melancholy Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

 

Dr Ben Carson, Prof Wole Soyinka, Okonjo Iweala, Alhaji Dangote, Seun Osewa, Bill Gates, Mark Zukaberg , Prof Pat Utomi, Prof Chukwuemeka Soludo, Linda Ikeji, Erika Badu, Indian Arie, Benz, Pastor Sam Adeyemi, Genevieve Nnaji.

 

When their temperament is channeled into negative use

 

Hackers, Hired Killers,Scammers, Con-artiste

Phlegmatic 

They are the extreme kinds of introverts, they so love hiding inside their shell, they are the very cautious, careful and sometimes fearful individuals. This one’s don’t like “wahala” (problems) at all at all, you can live with them for ages and not have a single problem but don’t just bring a Sanguine to live with them because you will frustrate life out of them. Phlegmatics are very unsociable, they love being by their selves most times, you will never find them starting up a conversation, for example you ask them “how are you ?” they will reply you “fine” and just stop there until you ask them another question. They can be trusted, loyal, calm, patient, and good observers, they are not thrilled by the flashy things of this world, and moderation is their watch word. The Phlegmatics are very conservative but not highly analytically as the Melancholies because they would easily loose interest on things that stresses them much. They most times contented with what they have not very ambitious like the Cholerics and they don’t enjoy speaking to a crowd or being the center of attraction

Careers that best suits The Phlegmatics 

• Reverend Father
•  Admin personnel
• Teacher (Kids)
• Nanny
• Nurse
• Conservative Pastors
• Security watch
• Doctors
• Scientists
• Professors
• Care givers
• Cleaners
• Machine Operators
• Conservative Leaders
• Writers

 

Some Phlematics Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

 

Pastor Kumuyi, President Buhari, Late President Yaradua, Late Prof Chinua Achebe, Pope Benedict.

When their temperament is channeled into negative use 

Imbeciles, weirdo, nuisance, Hackers, Easy preys to Mind manipulators

Choosing a career that works in sync with our temperament is the right step towards reaching our full potentiality and true calling in life, it makes each working day and holiday for you. So among the temperaments listed above look for the one best describes you and choose the careers that are in sync with your temperament.

 

 

HerexG

 

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