Tips for broke guys to win a refined lady’s heart

Most people are of the opinion which states that “No broke dude can get frosh and classy babe”, today, I want you know that I have broken that opinion few times as a broke hustling dude. Note, when I mean broke, I don’t mean one who cannot afford to feed well, wear good clothing’s, speak and write good English, pay his own bills. I’m talking to all the struggling guys in the street who hustle and can only afford life necessities but not luxuries. Today I will be highlighting 6 good factor I used to win frosh babes as they are called hearts.

1. Cloud your financial incapability with confidence: There’s nothing a matured, miss independent lady cherish in a man more than confidence. I was in my street one day hanging out with some friends and suddenly this frosh and sweet lady walked pass us, I got attracted to this babe immediately I saw her, I told my friends right away ” I go get this babe number”. They all laughed at me saying ” This kind babe no be your level bro”, then I looked at myself, I was properly dressed. With a confidence i don’t know where it came from I approached this babe and wala! I got her number. The lady later told me that she has been in that neighborhood for few months now and no guy has grown thick muscles to approve her. It didn’t stopped there, after confidence then comes what ?

2. Be at the driving seat : For the first month I dated this babe, she treated me like an option, her loyalty to me was next to nothing. Then I found out why, I have been making a grievous mistakes most broke guys make with ladies. Low self esteem, was the issue, I was treating her with great reverend not wanting to lose her. I don’t tell her what to do as the man, whatever she does and wants is acceptable to me, so she took me for granted, in fact she asked me one day that I’m I even man enough. The month I immediately changed scope. We are discussing the scope in next point.

3. Learn the skill of pulling the strings: As man learn the skill of being in charge even when you are broke, here is the scope I first played after I realized my weakness. We both live in the same neighborhood, so whenever she get back from work she would call me to come catch up with her at the bus stop because I always get home before her. So I will see her off to her house and go back to my house, if she later comes to my house after she might have relax at will, sometimes I even beg her to come. But I changed all these the next month, here’s what I did ” she called me as usual to come catch up with her at the bus stop, instead of going to meet up with her, I told her to go home and fix up herself and then come to my house or she should come directly to my house. Lo and behold she came directly to my house. I started pulling her strings, directing her to meet wherever I want to see her, not me going after her like a Roaster chasing a Hen. From that moment I started taking charge and she started looking beyond my brokenness. ( Note you have to handle this with all manner of courtesy so you don’t appear bossy)

4. Yes she knows you are broke but sell yourself with your mouth: Even though I was broke, she always tells me that, I could go with loaded guys that comes after her like vehicles hunting for fuel during fuel scarcity but she chose to stay with me. All these was because she’s a what I call Miss Independent and it’s never a dull moment with me, I would talk her out of reality. Most people living in my face me I slap you compound was wondering what’s a beautiful babe like her even doing with me, some even went as far as telling her how much of a player and joke I’m. This lady will end up telling me those gossips at the end of the day but would do something I admire but won’t admit it to her “hid the identity of who’s telling her the gossip”. She knows gossips like that appalls me, I could hurt the person saying the gossip.

5. Strike her real well at the slightest opportunity : Don’t joke with a lady when it comes to this, you misuse the slightest green light given to you they go elsewhere to get it. As a broke hustling guy, let her sexual fantasy, pleasure and fulfillment be dependent on you. This would give you the major key into her heart, suck all “suckables” when and hit real hard when it calls for that, do it like your life is dependent on it and stop behaving like a “Bolo”.

6. Get her close to your surest family relation: This act would give the lady an insurance that you are a serious dude and not the type to come mess up with her and then gilt her. And a preferable family relation you should get her close with is either your female siblings or a CLOSE brother or uncle’s wife. ( Only do this when you have intentions to settle down with her).

So being broke is not the end of the road, theirs always a beaming light at the end of a tunnel.

THE FIVE MAIN FACTORS THAT MAKES A LADY UNATTRACTIVE

 

Don’t get it twisted, being attractive goes beyond looks, it is a vital virtue a must have. It is the force that will develop the desire of people craving to get close to you but there are some factors that would hinder it all. Week in week out some ladies don’t make new friends, they will keep wondering why people are not coming close to them.  Ladies, the solution is not farfetched, here are five main factors that makes a lady unattractive, so kindly read up and let’s get Nigeria lighted up with more attractive ladies. If you don’t want the world to pass you by, you should be attractive….

1. Lack of Confident: it is believed that whatever you have inside of you is what would reflect outwardly, having confidence is an inside factor, that will reflect in you outwardly, it is a factor that cannot be hidden. Now show me a lady that’s got good confidence in herself and I will show you a magnetic lady, she attracts anything in her range of reach. The confidence doesn’t only work for her looks alone but also in her choice of field or career. These are the kind of ladies you find in the marketing department of most firms, they are highly sorted after. Lacking confidence in life repels just like two south pole magnet faced together most especially when you are a lady, the only people you get attracted to yourself most times as a lady who lacks confidence are people most especially men who wants to take advantage of you, and most times they zap when they have gotten what they want from you. So ladies develop all that confidence well enough and get them all attracted to you like ants are attracted to sweets.

2. Poor Hygiene: I will like to share a personal experience I had with a lady with a bad hygiene, just last year I met a girl who got me attracted with her personality and confidence, so I strike up a conversation with her, we got close to each other. So one day then I invited her over, she eventually came and we got talking, so I accidentally moved closer to her, Lawd have mercy! I was highly disappointed at the offensive odor I perceived from her, immediately she became unattractive to me even though she has got all the specs I need in a lady. I faked a call and discharged her, till date the lady kept wondering why I stopped contacting her. Having a good hygiene goes beyond  making stylish hair, putting on a clean and smart clothing, keeping your nails neat and your undies clean, the way you smell gives people an idea of how hygienic you are. Make your hygiene a priority to you today to remain a top notch attractive lady.

3. Selfish: Personally I do away with the “me” “me” kind of ladies, they know nothing else but themselves, you will most times find words like “Me” and “I” in their choice of words, selflessness is not in their dictionary. They are the attention seeking kind of girls, they want the world radar to be on them alone and they easily get depressed when the attention they seek is not forthcoming. A selfless service most times attracts the right kind of people to you but selfishness repels.

4. Bad Character: You will all agree with me that no one will ever want to get close to a lady with bad a character except her mom; they will try to avoid her as much as they can. No one is born with a good character, in fact our environment teaches us to be hostile and insensitive but as a lady who wants to achieve meaningful things out of life you need to learn how to become a lady with a great character. After you have attracted them with your looks, confidence, fashion, what would actually make them stay and keep coming back to you is your character.

5. Weak Fashion Scope: Picture speaks louder than voice; people get attracted to whatever is pleasant to the eyes. When they can’t come close to you; let your fashion speak for you. I’m not saying you should buy up all the most expensive fashion materials; they are lot of affordable and good fashion materials out there you can buy. What really matters in fashion scope is the combination; thank goodness there a lot fashion websites and materials that can help you step up your fashion game. You are not a boy, so stop having that Tomboy look, dress like a lady because dressing like a lady makes you look more attractive except you are man. Aside from entertaining us, I want to see the famous Nollywood actress Rita Dominic help a lot of our ladies with her mind blowing fashion tips. Always remember that you dress the way you want to be addressed.

The win win game begins with how attractive and appealing you are, so be more attractive and get the world at your finger tip today……

TIPS ON HOW BEST A SINGLE LADY SHOULD SOCIALIZE IN HER 30S

The social life style of ladies in thier 20s should be quite different from ladies in thier 30s, when a lady in her 30s socialize like she is in her 20s, most people would likely perceive a negative perspective on such a lady and she will eventually attract the wrong people to herself. Ladies in her 20s are predominantly carefree, they are attracted and moved by materialism, love to explore excessively, the drive to catch fun is very high that’s why you find them mostly in places like late night clubs, parties, being with numerous companies and associates.

Now does it means that ladies in their 30s should be left out of socializing ? The answer is simple as “No”, here are six ways a single lady in her 30s should socialize without attracting the wrong people and perception of her personality…..

1. Always conceal the search for your life partner: Ladies, don’t make it resounding or too obvious that you are single and searching, this is the point where most matured ladies get it all wrong. When you make it too obvious that you are in search of a spouse or life partner, it sends immediately sends the wrong signal to that potential spouse, it will at the long run make him feel as though he is doing you a big favor by dating or marrying you. Reduce to the max every form of desperation and insecurity, instead employ tactically the good old prank ladies in their 20s uses to keep men abate “The hard to get game”.

2. Embrace and Get devoted to a Belief:  Africans most especially Nigerians are a sucker for religion and spiritualism, you can easily pierce through a harden criminals heart if you appeal to his own religion or belief. For the Christians become a devoted church worker with some swag and class, not the “Mgbeke or SU” ones looking so unkempt and without a drive and passion for life and the same goes to other religions and believes.

3. Attending Occasions and Events: Attend more of classy weddings and business meetings “Alone”, majority of the potential spouse you get at 30s are mostly gentlemen and most times shy, so give them all the opportunity to come approach you. Reduce all that girls large round table sittings when you attend events and occasions, give a smooth avenue to reach you. Note not all men are that confident to fish you out of sitting of group of friends.

4. Reduce Luxuries :  Avoid looking too expensive when going to work, event or occasions, just dress responsibly, cute and smart. Cut down all forms of flamboyance and looking too flashy, one of the ladies I respect most when it comes to this aspect is Nollywood Rita Dominic, though she might be rich but she doesn’t look too expensive, she just look smart and beautiful all the time. Ladies make yourself approachable and not looking like a demigoddess.

5. Embrace the “one man MOPOL” Phrase: Reduce and avoid too much companies , most especially guys, avoid the “friend zoned guys” those guys that loves hanging around ladies that they are not dating or having a relationship with, don’t allow them deny you of a potential suitor. These guys will clinch to you to the extent that people would start thinking if something is going on between you both, not knowing that he just using you as a showoff to his ladies.

6.  Take a chill pill: And last be very humble, polite but not stupid, if you have to talk, talk in a polite manner, avoid loose and derogatory words in the public. Get a natural shock absorber, so example when someone accidentally steps on you, don’t allow all hell loose, just accept the sorry or the least you could say is ” please be more careful next time” and not “are you blind….. ?

Do all this and you will get suitors all attracted to you, but the problem would be how to identify the right suitor, in my next post I will analyze and break down how to identify a potential marriage suitor. So watch out guys

Thanks for reading with Love from HerexG.