Five distinctive difference between a “Foreign babe and a Naija babe”.

Have ever wondered why most a group of Naija guys would prefer to marry a foreigner and a faction would prefer sticking with the Naija babe, it’s all about taste and preference?  Taking aside those with the wrong motives like those seeking for visa and green card, I will discuss today five distinctive difference between a “Foreign babe and a Naija babe.

1. Foreign babe loyalty is higher : Foreign babes loyalty to their men tends to be higher than our Naija babes, once they are in love with you, irrespective of your background, financial status, attractive or not or handsome, height, color or race their loyalty is legendary and a top notch. On the other hand, most Naija babes loyalty comes most times comes with a clause, they don’t just fall in love like that. In fact their loving you come with something they can hold onto, they most times love because of good financial status, attractiveness or marriage. So therefore I would rate the foreign girl’s loyalty to be at 90% and our Naija babe loyalty 70%.

 

2. Naija babes endure and perseverance is top notch: You would find a Naija babe in an abusive relationship and still claims she loves her partner. You will find her husband or boyfriend will beat up and treat her like she worths nothing but yet she will still remain in such an abusive relationship or you will find very few of them enduring and managing with a broke or a cheating dude hoping for a better day. The moment you try this with a foreign babe most especially from the West, my brother,she breaks up with you asap and you will be very lucky if she didn’t press charges against you or shoot you. Please note lack of the foreign babe’s ability to endure in relationships and marriages is one of the major causes of single parenting.

3. Most Foreign babes love unconditionally: Like I said in my earlier statement irrespective of your background, financial status, attractive or not or handsome, height, color or race their love and loyalty is legendary. The new breeds of Naija babes we have these days are chronic materialistic beings, should it be blamed on the increased rate of poverty in our society or the degraded moral status in the country. Naija babes quantify love and money, forgetting that money can’t bring absolute happiness. This is one of the major reasons we have broken homes these days because they flow with the social tide, marrying for the wrong reasons.

4.      Naija Babes motherhood is next to nothing: Naija babes are better mothers compared to their foreign counterparts , they tend to instill better morals and up bringing into kids more. I could remember back then as a kid, I dare not eat outside as a kid because of the training my mom gave to me. When we have family outings I and my siblings dare not eat without decoding the facial sign of our mom, there’s a sign that says “eat” and there’s is this other sign that says “don’t eat”. If you there eat outside without permission , be expecting a legendary beat from her, she will beat the stupidity out of you with her slippers or cane “Pankere” as we call it.

5. Naija babe’s stands in love: Naija babes love you with all their guard on, mental alertness so as not to fall prey to their futuristic miss-doing of their partner. You tell C they must ask you have it has to be C because they curious people. For example, you tell a Naija babe that you are at the mall with a friend her most likely question would be “with a female or male friend”, some might go the extent of requesting for you to take a picture of where you are with such friend. A foreign befalls head over heels in love with all their guards, mental alertness, being pocketed by their partner, they can go extra miles for the sake of love.

 

So what team are you ? As for me I’m team Foreign babe o, in this current recession, keeping a Naija babe would cost a fortune biko except there still those who can love unconditionally..winks….

7 soft landing tips to launch you into 2017

1. In 2017 use more of your brain power (Soft work) than might

It is widely believed that most black people are synonymous with using more of their might than the brainpower but in 2017 let the reverse be the case. In our world of today those using more of their might to solve daily challenges are less valued compared to those who uses their brain might (Soft work). It is also believed that strength is readily available to all but the proper articulation and usage of the brain might is not available.

 

2. In 2017 embrace only healthy relationships

There’s nothing that weigh a man down emotionally and psychologically than an unhealthy relationship, its either you fix it or you quit! Starting a new year with an unresolved baggage’s is not the ideal way to kick start a brand new year so once again “If you can’t resolve it quit it! And in working relationships click with people who understand your vision and plan of action and try to keep your detractors abased.

 

3. In 2017 be receptive to knowledge

In the year 2017 make yourself teachable and learn-able, no man is an island of knowledge. Learn from new things from daily experiences, books, media, and enemy, superior, minor, friends and relatives and a big bye to your ego.

 

4. In 2017 Be a Responsible person

Push the frontiers of incompetence; try hard to be competent and responsible. Accept faults and reduce the blame games. And for the young bachelors still playing games around get serious with a lady and be responsible, I’m talking to you too young spinsters playing games too. Take full ownership of whatever responsibility being given to you whether big or small.

5. In 2017 be ready for opportunities

Learn to always look beyond your nose in 2017. Opportunities comes sometimes in the most unattractive outlook, remember the brain behind the mobile toilet in Nigeria (may his soul rest in peace)? This man made a fortune from human waste and passed it to his generation, funny enough his business slogan is “Sh*t na money”.

6. In 2017 appeal to people’s needs

The quickest and the surest way to get people do something for you is when you appeal to their need, quit that beggarly lifestyle and appeal to people’s needs to get something. For example just this year Mark Angel became a hit, he only appealed to people’s needs with his visual comedy and people in turn gave him back what he needed “Money and Fame”.

7. In 2017 avoid parasites

Try to separate people who are Parasitic in nature from the Symbiotic (Those who you benefit from and they as well benefit from you) ones. Simply embrace the symbiotic folks and stay far from the parasitic ones, and try not to be a parasite to no one.

 

7 vital attributes job interviewers seeks

When going to a for a job interview there are few immediate attribute you are expected to have in order to impress the interviewers,  you should exude these 7  tips I’m about to share in the first 10 minutes you spend with them. The first 2 to 5 mins matters a lot in a job interview, you mess up within this minute, your ability of regaining momentum to impress might be slim. So kindly seat back, widen your attention as I take you on a journey ride of impressing any interviewer….

1. Appearance: It is said “never judge a book by its cover” but in this case you are first by your cover and like the popular saying goes “you dress the way you want to be addressed”. Your interview starts with your appearance, no one will take you ever serious if you are poorly dressed up. So loosen up their guards first and reduce the vile and attacks, they would throw at you with your fashionable dress sense.  If you are not the fashion oriented type surf the internet to enrich your mind on that regards.

 

2. Confidence: Confidence is the key, it is hard for people to entrust responsibility to someone without confidence. Let everything about you speak confidently, from your appearance to your facial expression, carriage, charisma and speech. Even if you are nervous or your system is naturally accommodating some atom of fret, try as much as possible to conceal it. The kind of confidence you exude would go a long way to tell them if actually you are the right person for the job. Check out Obama’s first election campaign, his opponent would have overwhelmed him by all standards, but Obama stole the crowd from him with his charming charisma and speech. Fortunately, this has once worked for me before, I applied for a job I’m not academically qualified for and to my amazement I was invited for the interview. On the day of the interview i nailed the job interviewers with confidence and ended up engaging them in (please don’t try this if you are not eloquent or a sweet talker) conversation.

 

3. Ability check: This is the major reason why they are interviewing you, they want to see if you are the right person for the job. It is now left for you to go extra mile to fortify yourself with the required and necessary information about the job and the company. Never let them catch you on aware, appeal to their needs by giving them what they need and even add “Jara”. Never look desperate or say things that would make them to want to pity you, a friend of mine once made that grievous mistake, he told his interviewers that “he had an accident few months ago” to attract pity. At the end of the day he didn’t get the job, note these people don’t condone any form of liability or inability, so the key is appealing to their needs.

 

4. Human relationship test: They want to know the level of your human relationship; they want to know how you will relate with their clients or customers. That’s why most times they engage you in conversation outside the working spare. At this point the smile you put on, language articulation and your courtesy would speak for you.

 

5. Loyalty check: The interviewer would also like to know the degree of your loyalty, that’s why they ask this question most times “why did you leave the previous company you were working” (answer: I want a bigger challenge in my career, a new working horizon after spending couple of years with them, I left them with a proper notice and on a good note), “are you presently in a contract with any organization or engaged in whatsoever thing that would limit your time. They want own majority of your time if not all, especially the banking industry. Giving them assurance of your loyalty to them would go a long way to give you higher advantage of gaining the employment.

 

6. Background check: This where job experience would speak for you, as a fresh graduate this might be difficult to acquire but it is definitely not a good idea to remain idle after school. Look for something that will get you engaged in regards to the area of your field, render free services if possible. You are after the experience and not the money yet, this point has also helped me too. Every year I voluntarily join the organizing team of a major event in Lagos without getting a dime, then one day an offer came and I was asked if I have ever organized an event before, I happily said yes. I mentioned the event I organized and wala! I got the offer! They want to know where you reside and how it may affect your working flow. Just except to be scrutinized like you are in the custody of the FBI, at this point try as much as possible to give straight and concise answers.

 

7. Belief: Unfortunately this aspect is not supposed to count but unfortunately in this part of the world we are it does count, majority of us are religious folks. I have been asked by several interviewers in the past “Which church do you worship”? You coincidentally attend the same church or have the same belief as they do; you gain closer ties with them. Tell them you are an atheist, agnostic or a traditional worshiper at your own detriment, though I’m not a religious person but I pretend to be in situations like this biko! Nobody come Lagos to come count bridges.

 

I hope this few points of mine is helpful to you my honorable readers, please always check back on www.herexg.wordpress.com for more educative and entertaining post thanks for reading.

 

Kinds of Lies

 

I won’t dispute the fact that a lie will always be a lie no matter how it’s told or who is telling it and the reason is being told but when we look deeper, access or check properly  “lies” are distinctively divided into three kinds. No doubt this ancient and famous act called “Lie” is practiced by almost all human races, ages, genders, sizes and figures with exception for the littles babies and the mute. To be candid, we can always try to reduce lies to its minimal but we can’t help but tell it consciously or unconsciously at times to safe matters. Bellow I will shed more lights on kinds of lies…

 

•       Lies based on Respect: Just like title goes, this kind of lie is told based on the respect one has for the person he or she is telling the lies to. Relationship is a very vital part in our own human social system, so this lies are told to protect relationships and integrity. If people were to be charged for telling this kind of lies most Husbands and Wives, Boyfriends and Girlfriends, Business associates would have paid heavily because these categories of people tells this kind of lies without repentance.

 

•      Deceptive Lies:   No doubt this kind of lie are told mainly because of selfish interest, it is told not because you respect the person you are telling the lie to but because that person is holding an important thing that is of interest to you. They are most times desperate and desperate times calls for desperate measures and that measure is Deception, now let’s categories of people that hopelessly guilty of this kind of lies are the Politicians, Casanovas, Gold diggers, Swindlers and Con artist.

 

 

•       Pranks:   This a kind of lie or deception practiced because of entertainment or laughter, it is an healthy kind of lie but some most times takes it to the extreme. A dose of this kind of lie or deception is good for our daily social activities in our homes, work , schools, parties   and place of worship but WARNING “ Prank responsibly”.

 

5 wrong moves guys makes online that that turns off ladies

Ladies all around the world be it Africa, Asia and America are almost the same, they share very similar feature not letting their guard off most especially when you are a stranger. The internet today is fast changing that every day, you could start with a word as short as “Hi” and end up hitting and keeping the price. But a lot of dudes go about this the wrong ways; these are 5 wrong moves guys makes online that that turns off ladies.

1. Unattractive DP: Images speaks more than a thousand words, it would speak for you and save you the energy of describing your physical features. You will find most dude taking pictures in front of a dirty wall or a shabby looking background with a funny pose and then upload it as their display pictures on their social media platforms. You will find some taking pictures with a blurry camera with a funny pose like bending beside flowers and shrubs like in the 60s. Dude step up your game this is the 21^st century take decent with a mix of some raunchy good quality pictures, it goes a long way to give the ladies of what you would taste like.

2. Asking too much and dumb questions: This is a huge turn off for the ladies and many guys are guilty of this, they want to know everything about a lady the very first minute they start conversing and they most time get short of words and start asking dumb questions like “Are you a Christian or Muslim ? What kind of phone are you using ? Do you have light (power) blabla ? Even if you want to ask questions be creative about it, ask it in a way she will start to pour out her mind to you by that way you will discover her area of interest instead of directly asking her what her area of interest is. And finally when she finally start asking you questions, your jackpot is around the corner. Below is a brief example of what I mean

Wrong move

Ade: Hello Dear

Chika: Hi

Ade: How are you?

Chika: Fyn

Ade: How was your night?

Chika: Fyn ooo (this time the babe start losing interest, might even ignore)

Ade: You are so sexy and hot

Chika: ???

Good move

Ade: Hello

Chika: Hi

Ade: How are you doing today?

Chika: Fyn

Ade: Hope you had a great night

Chika: Yes I did and you?

Ade: My night was splendid; I’m Ade from Lagos and you?

3. Being uninteresting or Boring: This is where your explorative and creative skills is needed, try to explore her needs and desires and amplify it without making it look obvious. For example her desire is bread and butter; present those bread and butter as a hot delicious sandwich. Play with her imaginations, leave her with wild imaginations after each chat, and cleverly show off your knowledge most especially in the area of her interest. Most ladies admires intelligent guys, you don’t have to be a nerd to be intelligent, step up that sexiness and handsomeness with something in your brains. Don’t leave reading and learning alone to the nerds.

4. Stalking: After hitting a good start up chats, or maybe gaining little attention from the lady most guys’ gets overzealous and become the ladies monitoring spirit. They start looking up for the lady online almost every minute, gosh! Give it a break! Ladies needs some amount of space , in fact make them believe you are busy even if you are not, and not the other way around your last time on Whatsapp ,BBM,Facebook 2secs ago all day. Dudes give it a break, apply the law of demand and supply, make them miss you, this would prompt them to start looking for you, then your value increases.

5. Trying too hard to impress: At this point most guys allow the attention they are getting from their crush to get over there head, by making a fool of themselves, letting out way too much information that might in a way turn off the lady’s surmounting emotions Dude be a gentleman you be more of the reader than the typist

Whew! I hope I have been able to be of help to you my delectable readers, please always try to check back for some more informative and exciting piece from my humble self HerexG wink!

Beware of Dogs in your Office

 

The world is filled with so many wicked and desperate people hovering about as scents, friends and associates; you will find the very desperate ones mostly in our homes and offices. I will lay more emphasis on taking strict safety precautions in our offices or place of work, in doing so I will share real life experiences, so I crave your indulgence to read and learn.

A few months ago one of our close family friends was employed as a clerk in one of Nigerians prestigious federal universities, after getting the employment; he immediately applied for admission to pursue his Bachelor’s Degree in the same school he is working. He was so hardworking, humble and loyal to the university rector that he found favor in the sight of him both as a staff and student. Immediately after graduation this young man was promoted as the Liberian of the university, many of coworkers was congratulating him little did he know that these same people would later be his doom?  One faithful day this young man came to his office with his food park from home, he shares the same office with other junior staffs. That very day was on a Friday, he was supposed to go pick up his son who attends the university’s primary school which is not far from his office.  As he was leaving his office, he kept his food park right inside his office drawer without locking it. Shortly after, he came back with his son and right immediately he fetched the food from the drawer and he and his son ate the food together. Few minutes’ later father and son started bleeding, coughing out blood while eating, they were both rushed to the hospital. Unfortunately the father died, but the boy survived, it was later found that the food that they were eating was poisoned. This is the height of wickedness and evil manipulation in the office; none of his immediate coworkers sharing the same office attended his funeral.

So one has to be very careful in dealing with people even in the office or place of work, never leave your consumables or private properties open where anyone could reach it. If you must leave your office, leave with your food (consumables) or safely lock it, the world we live in today is filled with wicked and desperate and mean people.

THE FIVE MAIN FACTORS THAT MAKES A LADY UNATTRACTIVE

 

Don’t get it twisted, being attractive goes beyond looks, it is a vital virtue a must have. It is the force that will develop the desire of people craving to get close to you but there are some factors that would hinder it all. Week in week out some ladies don’t make new friends, they will keep wondering why people are not coming close to them.  Ladies, the solution is not farfetched, here are five main factors that makes a lady unattractive, so kindly read up and let’s get Nigeria lighted up with more attractive ladies. If you don’t want the world to pass you by, you should be attractive….

1. Lack of Confident: it is believed that whatever you have inside of you is what would reflect outwardly, having confidence is an inside factor, that will reflect in you outwardly, it is a factor that cannot be hidden. Now show me a lady that’s got good confidence in herself and I will show you a magnetic lady, she attracts anything in her range of reach. The confidence doesn’t only work for her looks alone but also in her choice of field or career. These are the kind of ladies you find in the marketing department of most firms, they are highly sorted after. Lacking confidence in life repels just like two south pole magnet faced together most especially when you are a lady, the only people you get attracted to yourself most times as a lady who lacks confidence are people most especially men who wants to take advantage of you, and most times they zap when they have gotten what they want from you. So ladies develop all that confidence well enough and get them all attracted to you like ants are attracted to sweets.

2. Poor Hygiene: I will like to share a personal experience I had with a lady with a bad hygiene, just last year I met a girl who got me attracted with her personality and confidence, so I strike up a conversation with her, we got close to each other. So one day then I invited her over, she eventually came and we got talking, so I accidentally moved closer to her, Lawd have mercy! I was highly disappointed at the offensive odor I perceived from her, immediately she became unattractive to me even though she has got all the specs I need in a lady. I faked a call and discharged her, till date the lady kept wondering why I stopped contacting her. Having a good hygiene goes beyond  making stylish hair, putting on a clean and smart clothing, keeping your nails neat and your undies clean, the way you smell gives people an idea of how hygienic you are. Make your hygiene a priority to you today to remain a top notch attractive lady.

3. Selfish: Personally I do away with the “me” “me” kind of ladies, they know nothing else but themselves, you will most times find words like “Me” and “I” in their choice of words, selflessness is not in their dictionary. They are the attention seeking kind of girls, they want the world radar to be on them alone and they easily get depressed when the attention they seek is not forthcoming. A selfless service most times attracts the right kind of people to you but selfishness repels.

4. Bad Character: You will all agree with me that no one will ever want to get close to a lady with bad a character except her mom; they will try to avoid her as much as they can. No one is born with a good character, in fact our environment teaches us to be hostile and insensitive but as a lady who wants to achieve meaningful things out of life you need to learn how to become a lady with a great character. After you have attracted them with your looks, confidence, fashion, what would actually make them stay and keep coming back to you is your character.

5. Weak Fashion Scope: Picture speaks louder than voice; people get attracted to whatever is pleasant to the eyes. When they can’t come close to you; let your fashion speak for you. I’m not saying you should buy up all the most expensive fashion materials; they are lot of affordable and good fashion materials out there you can buy. What really matters in fashion scope is the combination; thank goodness there a lot fashion websites and materials that can help you step up your fashion game. You are not a boy, so stop having that Tomboy look, dress like a lady because dressing like a lady makes you look more attractive except you are man. Aside from entertaining us, I want to see the famous Nollywood actress Rita Dominic help a lot of our ladies with her mind blowing fashion tips. Always remember that you dress the way you want to be addressed.

The win win game begins with how attractive and appealing you are, so be more attractive and get the world at your finger tip today……

15 Tips To Be A Great Entrepreneur In The 21st Century

In the present economy hardship, where jobs are lost every day, families and homes are being shattered because of lack of resources, can there be way out of this hardship ?

I hear wisdom calling from afar, trying to find way into our hearts but many hearts are shot tightly leaving wisdom outside in the cold.

The way out of this economy situation is learning the principles and dynamic rules of entrepreneurship, so I present to you “15 Rules to be a great entrepreneur in the 21th century”.

Now what is expected of you as a 21st century entrepreneur?

Before going any further, you need to first discover yourself

Knowing yourself is the foundation of wisdom; know what your capabilities, strength and weakness are, this goes a long way to help discover who you really are

1. Passion: Being passionate about things you do is the desiring force that drives you to do something even when you are not rewarded for it, it is something you are most times not ordered to do, you most times do them consistently out of your own free will. Passion should be the first thing to think of when choosing a career or skill acquisition , with passion everyday will be like holiday for you even at work.

2. Audacity: Be fearless and bold when handling life issues and business affairs , I learnt something from the CEO of “Konvit Records” Akon, when his record label was about to sign Lady Gaga, most of his company executives was against him signing Lady Gaga, but he was audacious in his decision taking. He stood on his ground and he went ahead to sign her, Lady Gaga later became a hit and brought the company fortunes, this is not to say being audacious doesn’t have its own shortcomings but still yet you still need to be audacious as a 21st century Entrepreneur.

3. Problem Solving: One of the major reason why I wouldn’t like to be a resident in a developed country is because there are no much problems there for me to solve, the people who solved majority of their problems have earned a fortune and they are now spreading their tentacles to Africa e.g. The Chinese. When you discover a problem, instead of you complaining to the government like an average Nigerian do, device a means to solve the problem and smile to the bank. All the billionaires we have today worldwide are problem solvers, quote me anywhere.

4. Spend Money to Make Money: As a 21st century entrepreneur you should spend money to make money not save money, you only save to later spend on a venture that will yield more. Majority of your money should be spent on avenues where you can get the money back, this is why the banks are loyal to top CEO’S in granting loans, because the bank is sure that these ones spend money to get money back. Know this now that CEO’S don’t establish a business with their own money, they establish industries and companies with the accumulated money from peasants and workers collected by banks.

5.Sacrifice: Bear the present pains, pay the sacrifice of that thing you believe in, Bill Gates sacrificed his degree for Microsoft, even our own Seun Osewa sacrificed his degree for Nairaland, this is not to discourage anyone to obtain a degree, just want to use them as an example to open our eyes to a bigger picture. To become a successful 21st century entrepreneur you must be able to let go off something you hold in high esteem that’s a hindrance to your set out goals. In the race of becoming 21st entrepreneur is always a tussle between the stoic trait and epicurean. A stoic is one who can sacrifice present pleasure for the future, an Epicurean is one who lives like there is no tomorrow, they live for now and are consumers.

6. Invest in yourself: When we say invest in yourself we don’t mean buying yourself unnecessary luxuries, invest in things that will add value to you. Like the saying goes “garbage in and garbage out”, computer hardware is useless without an inputted software, you input into a hardware system in relating this to human practicable act, we are humans are the computer hardware and information/ knowledge is the software. You are limited to the amount of information you have, educate and illuminate working scope, and general life engagements. All these will cost you something but never mind it’s for the betterment of your well being.

7. Be Humble: Being humble is as simple as the word sounds, but it’s difficult for many to practice, people naturally despises the proud which is the opposite of humble, no two ways about it, it is either you are humble or proud, so check yourself. No matter the caliber of customers, clients or staffs and even people around you, just be humble to them, because in people lies the treasure you seek (This is why we have the human relation department in companies). Be humble to the extent you make your clients and customers feel comfortable or even above you, being humble doesn’t stop you from becoming who you are.

8. Get a Mentor: Look for someone who is already successful in the direction you are heading to and be humble enough to be mentored by him or her. Apply the law of 33%,

· The first 33% of your time should be spent with those who you above

· The second 33% of your time should be spend with those who are your equals

· And the final 33% should be spent with those above you

9. Read More: Be a voracious reader, this saying in time past was made popular “you want to hide a secret from a black man, put in a writing” but in this present 21st century that saying holds no weight, ground or validity anymore. The fitness folks would say “ you are what you eat “ but I will prefer to say “You are what you read”. In those closed books are hidden treasures of this world, it won’t be revealed to you until you open and read it. Some years back I read the book “ The Angels and the Demons” few years later I watched the movie, but I tell you, It was nothing compared to the book itself, a lot of information was left out of the movie.

10. The Team : You need to work with a smart team, folks that are your like minds, people that will make life easier for you. With the right people around and the right attitude success is a must, a piece of broom stick can sweep only but a little, but with many brooms sticks bonded together there is a greater impression. Stay away from negative people, they have a problem for every solution, while the positive people have the solution to every problem

11. Persevere: One company I will never stop admiring is a digital satellite TV company in Nigeria Sta*****s, when Mul********ce company came up with Go** an exact product like theirs, I exclaimed “ This is the end of Sta*****s” because of the strong reputation of Mul********ce ! But Sta*****s stood on their ground, persevere and restrategized to remain in business. One CEO I cease to admire is the Chairman of the defunct telecommunication company, he allowed the troubles in the business world to overwhelm him , hereby committing suicide, how I wished he has persevered. Rome wasn’t built in day, so start start small, work hard and watch that business grow

12. Consistency : Continue doing what you are doing, also seeking for better ways to do it, at the long run you will sure reap the harvest. Now lets rewind back to 2008, if someone had told Linda Ikeji that Blogging will later get her a mansion, fame and wealth she has now, she might have doubted it. Let the world know you for something, and not a jack of all trade. Being consistent and effective at your game is what qualifies you to be a professional.

13. Goal Setting: Set out your goal, write and execute them, it’s enough for you to just set out goals without execution. Write out your short term goals and your long term goals. Your short term goals ranges from 1 month to 5 years and your long term goals ranges from 5 years and above. Never make that mistake of thinking you can memorize your goals without writing them, our several life’s engagement might let those goals slip off our memory, so it’s we right them out and execute. Always write yours goals like a To-List, marking out each successfully executed goal.

14. Build your Network: In your road to success you are bound to meet with all kinds of people, these same people you came across coming up are the networks you will need to remain a success, everybody you meet are your potential network so treat them nicely. Try as much as possible not to break these networks with poor or bad relations so as not to experience severe hiccups in the business terrain, everybody is useful. Instead of cutting them off, keep them in touch, like Paul the Apostle would say “If possible, be at peace with all men”.

15. Be Optimistic : Expect the best in all possible ways, this is what the religious folks will call faith, stay positive, stay focused, the sky is just a stepping stone.

Narrated by Salisu-Thalith Ridwan

Composed and Written by Henry Nwachukwu (HerexG)

TIPS ON HOW BEST A SINGLE LADY SHOULD SOCIALIZE IN HER 30S

The social life style of ladies in thier 20s should be quite different from ladies in thier 30s, when a lady in her 30s socialize like she is in her 20s, most people would likely perceive a negative perspective on such a lady and she will eventually attract the wrong people to herself. Ladies in her 20s are predominantly carefree, they are attracted and moved by materialism, love to explore excessively, the drive to catch fun is very high that’s why you find them mostly in places like late night clubs, parties, being with numerous companies and associates.

Now does it means that ladies in their 30s should be left out of socializing ? The answer is simple as “No”, here are six ways a single lady in her 30s should socialize without attracting the wrong people and perception of her personality…..

1. Always conceal the search for your life partner: Ladies, don’t make it resounding or too obvious that you are single and searching, this is the point where most matured ladies get it all wrong. When you make it too obvious that you are in search of a spouse or life partner, it sends immediately sends the wrong signal to that potential spouse, it will at the long run make him feel as though he is doing you a big favor by dating or marrying you. Reduce to the max every form of desperation and insecurity, instead employ tactically the good old prank ladies in their 20s uses to keep men abate “The hard to get game”.

2. Embrace and Get devoted to a Belief:  Africans most especially Nigerians are a sucker for religion and spiritualism, you can easily pierce through a harden criminals heart if you appeal to his own religion or belief. For the Christians become a devoted church worker with some swag and class, not the “Mgbeke or SU” ones looking so unkempt and without a drive and passion for life and the same goes to other religions and believes.

3. Attending Occasions and Events: Attend more of classy weddings and business meetings “Alone”, majority of the potential spouse you get at 30s are mostly gentlemen and most times shy, so give them all the opportunity to come approach you. Reduce all that girls large round table sittings when you attend events and occasions, give a smooth avenue to reach you. Note not all men are that confident to fish you out of sitting of group of friends.

4. Reduce Luxuries :  Avoid looking too expensive when going to work, event or occasions, just dress responsibly, cute and smart. Cut down all forms of flamboyance and looking too flashy, one of the ladies I respect most when it comes to this aspect is Nollywood Rita Dominic, though she might be rich but she doesn’t look too expensive, she just look smart and beautiful all the time. Ladies make yourself approachable and not looking like a demigoddess.

5. Embrace the “one man MOPOL” Phrase: Reduce and avoid too much companies , most especially guys, avoid the “friend zoned guys” those guys that loves hanging around ladies that they are not dating or having a relationship with, don’t allow them deny you of a potential suitor. These guys will clinch to you to the extent that people would start thinking if something is going on between you both, not knowing that he just using you as a showoff to his ladies.

6.  Take a chill pill: And last be very humble, polite but not stupid, if you have to talk, talk in a polite manner, avoid loose and derogatory words in the public. Get a natural shock absorber, so example when someone accidentally steps on you, don’t allow all hell loose, just accept the sorry or the least you could say is ” please be more careful next time” and not “are you blind….. ?

Do all this and you will get suitors all attracted to you, but the problem would be how to identify the right suitor, in my next post I will analyze and break down how to identify a potential marriage suitor. So watch out guys

Thanks for reading with Love from HerexG.

Understanding Temperaments and Relating it with Careers

Understanding human temperaments is the key to towards achieving excellent human relationship, understanding human temperaments is also very vital in choosing careers. Many out there are presently practicing careers that are totally not in line with their temperament, those who successfully choose and practice careers that are line with their temperament are most times called Genius or they most times very successful in their chosen careers. Today I will try to help us identify and analyze these temperaments and relate them with the various practicable careers (I will use Nigerian celebrities as a case study).

Sanguine: These are the category of people I termed “Hyper-Active”, it is never a dull moment with this kind of people and they lighten up every dull atmosphere. They are extremely extroverts, talkative and display body movements to go in sync with their conversation, they will even first greet you if you fail to greet them. One very good thing about them is that they have no space to harbor grudges against anyone, they say it as they see it and their weakness is isolation, they can’t afford to be isolated. Not finding who to dramatize or talk to can be disastrous to them, it can even lead to depression. These set of people are the party freaks, they love gatherings where they can have the opportunity to exhibit their dramatic skills. They extremely love being the center of attraction

 

Careers that best suits The Sanguines

 

• Entertainers
• Compere
• Comedians
• Pastors with Charisma
• Actors
• Radio and TV personalities
• Marketers
• Public speakers
• Dancers
• Tourist guides

 

Some Sanguine Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

Dbanj, Chris Talker, Harts ( The little man), Chris Talker, Harts( The little man), Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock, I Go Die, Seyi Law, Derenle Edun, Saka,Tosin Buknor, Nedu (Wazobia Fm), Fela Durotoye, Pastor Chris, that dude who played a pastor in the movie titled “Coming to Amerfica”

When their temperament is channeled into negative use

 

Public Nuisance and Gossips

 

Choleric: They are the authoritative people, most times serious, strict and disciplinarians; I termed these categories of people “The Drivers”. They are extroverts who don’t take craps and no for an answer, they enjoy giving orders, commands and rules, very ambitious they are natural leaders. Most of them are the perfectionist type and they love things going their own way, you start becoming their enemy if you don’t abide by their rules and their best friends are those who are loyal to them, those who rarely antagonize them. They love being listened to and are obsessed with power; they have this strong energetic drive that makes people subjective to them. When it comes to more important public speeches they can take anyone to the cleaners, they are good orators.

 

Careers that best suits The Choleric

 

• Force
• Politician
• Head of departments and Organizations
• Strict Teachers
• Ruler
• Aggressive Pastors
• Project Managers
• Rappers
• Security personnel
• Authoritative Actors
• Receptionist

Some Choleric Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

 

Late Gen. Sani Achacha, President Mugabe, Ahmed Bola Tinubu , Olusegun Obasanjo, Donald Trump, Pastor Oyedepo, Gov Adams Oshomole, Olamide, Pete Edochie , Chiwetalagu, Omotola Jalade, MI, Ramsey Noah, Late Dora Akuiyili, Patience Jonathan, Rita   Dominic, Samuel L Jackson, Olu Jacobs, Oprah Winfred, Ben Bruce.

 

 When their temperament is channeled into negative use 

 

Hardened Criminals, Dictatorship, Terrorists, Rebellion  

 

 

 

 

Melancholy: I termed these categories of people “The cool headed folks” very reserved kind of people, they don’t like wahala at all. They can be very analytical that is very good at analyzing and interpretation of written words, figures and pictures these folks are introverts, they enjoy and regard every bit time of time they spend alone. You want to become their permanent enemy, just deny them of their privacy, space (They are obsessed with space) and time alone. You don’t expect this category of people to first greet you if they are not that close to you, they don’t say too much but they can say more in words, figures and pictures, they are the creative geniuses. The Melancholies always try as much as possible not to pass their boundaries; they always mind their own business. In whatever you do please don’t try to push these categories of people to the wall because their outburst is always crazy, they really don’t know how to react or exchange words, it’s either they hit you physically or do something that would really hurt you. The very good thing about them is that they always tend to do excellently well at jobs the requires much concentration

 

Careers that best suits The Melancholics

 

• Doctors
• Lawyers
• Accountants
• Writers
• Architects
• Pilots
• Sailors
• The Analytical Pastors
• Scientist
• Mangers of organizations and Departments
• Auditors
• Artisans
• Professors
• CEOS
• Computer gigs
• Soul Musicians
• Teachers
• Snipers
• Actors

 

Some Melancholy Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

 

Dr Ben Carson, Prof Wole Soyinka, Okonjo Iweala, Alhaji Dangote, Seun Osewa, Bill Gates, Mark Zukaberg , Prof Pat Utomi, Prof Chukwuemeka Soludo, Linda Ikeji, Erika Badu, Indian Arie, Benz, Pastor Sam Adeyemi, Genevieve Nnaji.

 

When their temperament is channeled into negative use

 

Hackers, Hired Killers,Scammers, Con-artiste

Phlegmatic 

They are the extreme kinds of introverts, they so love hiding inside their shell, they are the very cautious, careful and sometimes fearful individuals. This one’s don’t like “wahala” (problems) at all at all, you can live with them for ages and not have a single problem but don’t just bring a Sanguine to live with them because you will frustrate life out of them. Phlegmatics are very unsociable, they love being by their selves most times, you will never find them starting up a conversation, for example you ask them “how are you ?” they will reply you “fine” and just stop there until you ask them another question. They can be trusted, loyal, calm, patient, and good observers, they are not thrilled by the flashy things of this world, and moderation is their watch word. The Phlegmatics are very conservative but not highly analytically as the Melancholies because they would easily loose interest on things that stresses them much. They most times contented with what they have not very ambitious like the Cholerics and they don’t enjoy speaking to a crowd or being the center of attraction

Careers that best suits The Phlegmatics 

• Reverend Father
•  Admin personnel
• Teacher (Kids)
• Nanny
• Nurse
• Conservative Pastors
• Security watch
• Doctors
• Scientists
• Professors
• Care givers
• Cleaners
• Machine Operators
• Conservative Leaders
• Writers

 

Some Phlematics Celebrities whose careers are in sync with their temperaments

 

Pastor Kumuyi, President Buhari, Late President Yaradua, Late Prof Chinua Achebe, Pope Benedict.

When their temperament is channeled into negative use 

Imbeciles, weirdo, nuisance, Hackers, Easy preys to Mind manipulators

Choosing a career that works in sync with our temperament is the right step towards reaching our full potentiality and true calling in life, it makes each working day and holiday for you. So among the temperaments listed above look for the one best describes you and choose the careers that are in sync with your temperament.

 

 

HerexG

 

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